Por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ky m\u00eb lajmi. Nuk jetojm\u00eb m\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00ebn kur problemi ishte se askush nuk guxonte t\u00eb thoshte t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn. Sot, e v\u00ebrteta qarkullon. \u00cbsht\u00eb aty dhe kudo. \u00cbsht\u00eb e dukshme n\u00eb drit\u00eb t\u00eb diellit. Dhe megjithat\u00eb, asgj\u00eb nuk ndryshon. Sepse problemi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mungesa e z\u00ebrit. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb mungesa e angazhimit ndaj asaj q\u00eb dihet, kuptohet dhe flitet. Ne nuk kemi m\u00eb nj\u00eb mbret lakuriq p\u00ebrball\u00eb nj\u00eb turme t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuar. Kemi nj\u00eb turm\u00eb q\u00eb e sheh lakuriq\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe zgjedh t\u00eb sillet sikur nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tashm\u00eb, n\u00eb koh\u00ebt q\u00eb po jetojm\u00eb, iluzioni nuk imponohet por nd\u00ebrtohet bashk\u00ebrisht. N\u00eb versionin klasik t\u00eb metafor\u00ebs s\u00eb \u201cmbretit lakuriq\u201d, iluzioni mbahet nga frika. Sot mbahet nga nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje e heshtur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Mos e \u00e7montoni narrativ\u00ebn q\u00eb ju jep p\u00ebrkat\u00ebsi!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Mos prekni figurat q\u00eb mbajn\u00eb ekuilibrin emocional!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2022 Mos k\u00ebrkoni koherenc\u00eb aty ku ka interes!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sepse e v\u00ebrteta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm \u00e7liruese. \u00cbsht\u00eb edhe destabilizuese. Dhe sot, shum\u00ebkush preferon m\u00eb shum\u00eb nj\u00eb iluzion funksional sesa nj\u00eb realitet q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi. E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb relativizuar deri n\u00eb pavler\u00ebsi. Nj\u00eb nga iluzionet m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha t\u00eb koh\u00ebs son\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ideja se jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb epok\u00eb transparence. N\u00eb realitet, jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb epok\u00eb ku \u00e7do fakt ka kund\u00ebrfaktin e vet, \u00e7do e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb trajtohet si opinion, dhe \u00e7do ekspozim neutralizohet nga zhurma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nuk kemi censur\u00eb klasike. Kemi nj\u00eb mbingopje q\u00eb e b\u00ebn t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn t\u00eb padallueshme nga zhurma. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kaos, lakuriq\u00ebsia b\u00ebhet ve\u00e7 nj\u00eb detaj. Cinizmi \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb mbrojtje kolektive. Ndoshta ndryshimi m\u00eb i thell\u00eb q\u00eb ka ndodhur n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb n\u00eb cil\u00ebn jetojm\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb politik por \u00ebsht\u00eb kryesisht psikologjik.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Njer\u00ebzit nuk jan\u00eb m\u00eb vet\u00ebm t\u00eb frik\u00ebsuar.Jan\u00eb t\u00eb lodhur. Kan\u00eb par\u00eb mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos besuar m\u00eb n\u00eb ndryshim, por jo aq sa p\u00ebr t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur veten nga loja. Kjo prodhon nj\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb rrezikshme: e shohin problemin, e komentojn\u00eb problemin, por nuk e prekin dot struktur\u00ebn q\u00eb e mban at\u00eb. Sepse nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb pjes\u00eb e saj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Problemi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb \u201cmbreti lakuriq\u201d. \u00cbsht\u00eb tundimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos par\u00eb. Sepse t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb heq\u00ebsh dor\u00eb nga justifikimet, t\u00eb rrezikosh p\u00ebrkat\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe t\u00eb pranosh se ke toleruar m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa duhet. Dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb sesa t\u00eb pranosh nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. Pyetja reale nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb se kush do ta thot\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn?! Pyetja tani \u00ebsht\u00eb se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb gati t\u00eb jetoj\u00eb me pasojat e saj?! Sepse t\u00eb thuash \u201cmbreti \u00ebsht\u00eb lakuriq\u201d sot nuk mjafton. Kjo tashm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tashm\u00eb sfida \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr: t\u00eb mos sillesh m\u00eb sikur ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i veshur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ps. ky postim \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb reflektim q\u00eb prej koh\u00ebsh endet n\u00eb mendjen time nga biseda me miq e familjar\u00eb, pacient\u00eb e koleg\u00eb, shofer\u00eb taksie dhe shit\u00ebs fruta-perimesh. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb e shohin dhe e kuptojn\u00eb \u201clakuriqsin\u00eb\u201d e mbret\u00ebrve ton\u00eb por n\u00eb shumic\u00eb e trajtojn\u00eb si nj\u00eb mod\u00eb t\u00eb re, nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyre t\u00eb re veshjeje duke pranuar: eeeeee k\u00ebshtu \u00ebsht\u00eb koha!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ky m\u00eb lajmi. Nuk jetojm\u00eb m\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00ebn kur problemi ishte se askush nuk guxonte t\u00eb thoshte t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn. Sot, e v\u00ebrteta qarkullon. \u00cbsht\u00eb aty dhe kudo. \u00cbsht\u00eb e dukshme n\u00eb drit\u00eb t\u00eb diellit. Dhe megjithat\u00eb, asgj\u00eb nuk ndryshon. Sepse problemi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mungesa e z\u00ebrit. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb mungesa e angazhimit […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4370,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[84],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4369","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4369","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4369"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4369\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4371,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4369\/revisions\/4371"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4370"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4369"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4369"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nelidemi.al\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4369"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}